Porn is not the problem. It's a byproduct of your sexual superpower being misdirected.

Porn is not the problem. It's a byproduct of misguided sexual energy. Your sexual energy is a superpower that when consciously directed can bring massive transformation and fulfillment to your life in areas that extend far beyond the bedroom.

What if instead of fighting your sexual impulses - you created a model of sexual fulfillment that outperformed the level of pleasure you're finding in porn?

Let me explain.

I first became addicted to porn at ten years old. It deeply programmed my brain chemistry - distorting my perceptions of sexuality, women's pleasure, and my own body image. I was convinced that no woman would ever want my small, pre-pubescent penis. I used porn to avoid the challenge of real human intimacy. I used porn to distract, avoid, and numb myself from the depressing reality I found myself in.

I was raised in a conservative Christian home, so the feelings of guilt and sin only fueled my shame, low self-worth, and feelings of powerlessness. I got into video games shortly thereafter, and in the years that followed I avoided human interaction (especially with women). It got so bad that I had panic attacks talking to women I was attracted to.

I would sometimes masturbate to porn up to a dozen times a day. And this was all before the age of smart phones. I can't even imagine what it's like for young men now. Little did I know at the time that I was draining my most valuable life-force essence - or 'jing' - as I would later learn in Traditional Chinese Medicine teachings.

I would turn to porn when I felt anxious, depressed, lonely, or any other uncomfortable feeling. It became a drug that followed me through my teenage years and into my adult life. While I finally managed to land my first stable relationship at 21 years old, I would still go to porn to fulfill my insatiable sexual appetite.

Inevitably, the intimacy in my relationships would dry up as I continued feeding my sexual desires with porn. It wasn't until my marriage ended in 2022 that I decided to do something about it.

I tried things like Sex Addicts Anonymous throughout my adult life with no success - it felt like an echo chamber of depressed people with dysfunctional or nonexistent sex lives reinforcing their identity as "addicts". I knew there had to be something else out there.

It wasn't until I stumbled across teachings from Eastern lineages on sexual energy that things began to click. I began to learn the re-frame in these teachings of sexual "life-force" energy as the basis of our vitality and could be used to fuel our health, vitality, creativity, and longevity. I was further intrigued learning about the mysterious "non-ejaculatory orgasm" and men's capacity to separate orgasm and ejaculation and last for hours in bed.

I was hooked, and I spent the years reading every book I could get my hands on. I studyied with with teachers all over the world. I started learning about the basics of semen retention and how to redirect sexual energy into new neural pathways and nervous system responses, allowing a whole new dimension of my sexual experience to emerge.

My process was nothing short of life-changing. I could swear women picked up on my scent as I was retaining and doing these practices to move and transmute sexual energy throughout my body. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, it's taught that sexual energy binds and amplifies whatever is present in the body and mind - so it's not to say that it was an easy process at first - but as I worked through a lot of my negative thought patterns and programs and allowed my body to detox all the toxins I had taken in over a lifetime - gradually my anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem started fading as a new, more empowered version of me emerged.

To be completely clear, I didn't do this alone. I had the support of mentors, coaches, therapists, and brotherhood in the men's work space over the years to support these processes.

I am now in the relationship of my dreams and my urges for porn have become almost non-existent in the past couple of years. Of course I deleted my entire library and cleared my social media accounts and algorithms of all models. I have never felt more free, empowered, and sexually fulfilled in my life. I have a level of focus, drive, stamina, and creativity that I never knew existed. I can make love for hours with my partner and can experience profound levels of pleasure and connection. My cup is overflowing.

My intention sharing this is to let brothers out there know that IT IS POSSIBLE to break free from porn. If you're struggling with porn, you have a HUGE GIFT - you have an abundance of life force waiting to be guided into sexual and life fulfillment.

Buckminster Fuller once said - “You never change things by fighting the existing reality.To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

What if instead of fighting your sexual impulses - you created a model of sexual fulfillment that outperformed the level of pleasure you're finding in porn?

That model exists - and I have dedicated my life to sharing it with as many brothers as possible. My intention stepping into spreading this education is to support every brother out there struggling with sex and intimacy to break free of the limiting patterns and step into the man he came here to be like I did.

If you're interested in learning more about these teachings and how you can re-wire your sexual energy, I invite you to check out our podcast "Men's Sexual Mastery" on all streaming platforms as a place to get started, or check out our training programs at www.menssexualmastery.com.

Here's to a future world where every human is sexually fulfilled.

Onwards and Upwards,

Ben